True listening

Remember a time when someone truly listened to you? Not just heard your words, but understood your emotions, your unspoken thoughts. How did that make you feel?

In the world of hashtag#coaching, and indeed in everyday life, listening is more than a mere skill; it's an art form. 

Stephen R. Covey perfectly captures this essence, saying, "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply." 

This understanding goes deeper than the spoken words; it's an insight into the speaker's emotions and unspoken needs.

Effective listening creates a safe, non-judgmental space. In this space, individuals feel valued and understood, fostering an environment conducive to free expression and exploration. 

Larry King beautifully summarized this, noting, "I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I'm going to learn, I must do it by listening." 

This approach not only builds trust and rapport but also enhances the depth and quality of our relationships.

Moreover, listening is a powerful tool for facilitating growth and insights. By truly listening, you guide conversations to explore areas that might otherwise remain unexamined. 

In my journey as a coach I've come to understand that listening is an invaluable life skill. It involves being present, not just physically, but with your whole being. This presence requires a silence that goes beyond not speaking; it's a mental quiet, allowing the words and emotions of others to resonate fully. 

I don’t necessarily make it always. It’s really important to keep practicing and keep insisting. 

Now, reflect on your daily interactions. Are you truly listening, or merely hearing? 

How might enhancing your listening skills improve your relationships and personal growth?